Reinforcing Executive Functioning: Parents as Homelife Influencers

Updated: Sep 2, 2020

| by Thuy Truong, TPT Teaching and Coaching, 9/1/2020 |

No matter whether we realize it or not. Young people internalize adults’ behaviors. When youths hit a roadblock of some sort or learn a new skill in their journey of life, they turn to surrounding adults for examples and solutions. Even if they don’t, they think of how did dad or mom handle it when it was like this? I had a middle schooler whom I work with and we’re learning the art of building a sound argument. She texted me saying she can’t find five evidence to back up her claim for her homework. Instead of letting her off the hook, I encourage her by replying: “Be creative! Think outside of the box. Try to come up with three and I’ll help you with the last two. You’ll do great! Now, go and find them.” She did indeed find them and then came up with a new, compelling argument. Young people need examples of flexible thinking and enthusiasm to tackle healthy, new challenges. They may shy away at first, but with guidance from an adult, they will brave on. They are learning grit from you.

Here are 3 ways you can help your student foster structure, organization, and time management in the comfort of your own home:

1. Practice Structure: Wake Up Together

Students learn by doing, but they internalize by watching and mirroring. Whatever the skill you’d like your student to aspire to. Model it. For example, wake up at a disciplined time together and practice the morning routine. Have fun waking up early and your student will too. You can vary the depth and breadth of your modeling based on the student’s age and needs